Materialistic People

 Materialistic people are actually the worst! Look do not get me wrong, I like my designer and nice things as much as the next person but the older you get the more you realise actually how much hard work goes in to these nice things. I am not going to divulge on a public platform my finances but let's just say that if I wanted to go on a mad shopping spree it could happen. However it wouldn't happen because firstly my husband is very stingy and secondly we have other things to prioritise before I start to go on my mad shopping spree.

My readers who actually take their time to read this are probably thinking oh its a house. They need to get a house well yeah it is that but also life is so damn expensive at the moment. It's like you open your eyes in the morning and it costs you. You take your first breath in the morning and it cost you. People who act like this cost of living isn't affecting them are kidding themselves and everyone around them. It is so easy to put a facade on that stuff doesn't get to you by getting all the materialistic things in the world but ultimately it is getting to everyone. 

I really hate people who will only talk or acknowledge your presence if you're driving the most fancy car or have a million pound house which is worthy in their eyes. It's like these things don't make you a person, in fact it's more interesting to see how you would be without the facade of materialist elements. 

I think that everyone aren't going to get along but you should respect each other without worrying how much they have in their bank account. Because frankly you truly don't know how much they have, a person could be dripped out in all designer and have nothing in their account. Compared to a person who may just have basic clothes on and have millions in their account. Appearances don't always necessarily deem someone's bank balance or assets value! 

When you are younger all you care about is appearances and you want the latest trends of fashion but you don't always want to acknowledge at what cost they come at. As you get older things start to take priority and other things become more important then the latest trends. People who just have an interest to communicate with you because they think you add some value to their lives aren't really people worth having around I guess. 

It's like I said in my previous blog post that you need to control your narrative and that includes the people that you add in to your life. You want to have people in your life that add value and make life more fun. Not people that you constantly have to keep impressing but that is now what the expectation is! 

Your Narrative

You know what I have been thinking a lot and probably thinking about writing every day but something always stops me. Today I have found that motivation I have been looking for! I don't know if it will be a really long post or a few short ones but put it this way my fingers were itching to get on the Mac and starting typing away. 

Recently things have been happening and they are starting to put things in to perspective for me. I am very loud about mental health and an advocate for counselling. I started therapy at the beginning of this year and it didn't work out the way I thought. I started work and thought to myself I should utilise the therapist that we have at work. I didn't do it because shit was bad, I started talking to her because I felt lost. We had six sessions and the perspective I have gained from those sessions has been so enlightening. It feels like the 'old Nav' inside of me has woken up. She is trying to break through from this mould that has been created by others for the type of person I should be. 

One realisation out of the many that I have had is that no one can change your narrative of your life story. They can try and they can try to acknowledge that you didn't do something or you didn't do it the way that you thought but ultimately they can't actually take the truth away from you. Recently so many people have said things to me and I stop think about it. I think to myself why are you trying to change my narrative to make yours look better? 

I look back at my life and I think I have been through a lot. I have experienced a lot some of it good and some of it bad. But at the end of it all I am Still Standing! It is like people forget that you have done something that has some sort of link to their life. It is as if they need to make you look in a bad light to make themeless and others look good. 

When this use to happen to me I would let them change the narrative or perhaps even just dismiss what they were saying because I couldn't be bothered with the fact that people would use me and my life situations to make themselves look good. But now I am like, you can't do that. You can't take my narrative away from me to make yourself or others be good around you. 

I guess as life goes on and you get older you kinda realise what is important? Who is important? And why it is important? 

I guess no matter what happens you shouldn't ever lose your narrative! its your life story and you need to make sure your life is told the way you know it and not the way someone else wants you to!