Baby Brothers Big Punjabi Wedding

Punjabi weddings are always fun! But honestly when it’s a family wedding the fun is just more amazing & intesified. I know I have even pretty MIA and that’s for a number of reasons but the biggest one of them all is that I my younger sibling, the baby of the family, my brother got married! 

Easter weekend for us was a very busy weekend & a joyous weekend. The wedding festivities actually started in February with the prayer at the Gurdwara which was a blessing. Then all the partying started beginning of April. We had the Karahi on the 10th April which officially opened the wedding and kickstarted it all. The best part of any wedding is everyone getting together & literally just having so much fun! 

On Saturday 12th April was the Jaggo party. We were telling everyone that’s it the wedding party is here & we are opening this wedding up with a bang! It started off relaxed morning. Then the rush occurred once we all started getting ready. We got to the venue, it always starts off chaotic but once the Jaggo opened there was no stopping us on the dance floor. We partied hard until midnight and it was so hard to get everyone in there cars to leave as no one wanted the party to end! My car journey was so entertaining. Having the groom very drunk & my husband who also was drunk just telling each other how much they love each other & fully living up to there bromance!! 

Sunday 13th was Vaisakhi which is an important festival for Sikhs. I don’t know how me and my sister did it but we got up and went to the gurdwara the new one that opened in Camberley! Yes I live in Surrey darling & it’s just as posh as you would expect it to be!! Me, my sister and our adopted sister (basically family) went and it was lovely! We then in our Indian suits went to Sainsburys to pick up fruit.. we came home made our last basket for the Chunni ceremony. And five sisters ventured to the brides house to present her with these baskets! Now my brothers wife who at the time was his fiance is Sri Lankan so they don’t have any functions like how Punjabi weddings do. So we took this as our gesture to welcoming her in to the family. We all did something & gave her gifts. After that we could chill.. and did we chill we all went out for a cheeky Nando’s! It really helped my argument to go as my sister had come from Canada and she needed to experience it! 

Monday was meant to be a chilled today. But what does that mean! It just meant another day of running around and getting shit done! Costco for food, picking up cupcakes from my lovely baker.. amongst other things! When it was time to sit down something else has to be done. The mehendi lady came and it was the same lady who had done my mehendi when I got married so it was nice to have someone who’ve we have known for ages… she didn’t even get to finish all of us ladies even though she was there till 11pm. So was planning to come the next day!!

Tuesday 15th April, up bright and early as usual. This was the Maiyan day & ladies Sangeet! We knew this was going to be a long day and a long day it was indeed. We all were ready for the Maiyan that we did. Had some laughs doing that.. like how his friends cracked an egg in his hair.. and really got him good with vatna. Everyone had lunch and we had got a cake for our eldest brother & sister in law (yes they are cousins but that’s not how we see it as Punjabi’s - everyone is a brother or sister)! Back to the cake the reasons for it was because it was their wedding anniversary that day! They really were not expecting it and loved every moment of it. It was really cute! ❤️ There was a break for us to chill and get ready for the next event! This was such a great opportunity for all of us girlies to be in my room, music blaring, doing each others make up and hair. Really that getting ready like a proper girlie night out! The mehendi lady came, my sister went first and then I started mine. Half way through my mehendi me and my sister did our performance! Honestly our dance performance was just 5 mins of pure banter. Us two having a joke and just a laugh! I went back to getting my mehendi done and the boliyan started with the singing & dancing. This evening was nice becusee we had booked a food truck so everyone got to experience that! 

Wednesday 16th, another chill day. It did start off like that but then like any other day it for busy. It got hectic & everyone was just all over the place. No matter how early you try to go to bed it just never happens! We did finally get to sleep as we knew we had to be up super early!  

Thursday 17th, my Freestlye Libre sensor alarm woke everyone up at 2.15am with my 100th hypo of the week! We all just got up and showered. It was the Anand karaj day, the day they were going to be legally married!! The morning started off as any other morning relaxed and then hectic just comes out of nowhere. We had daily pictures and did all the rituals that needed to be completed. We then left for the gurdwara. As this wedding was the merging of two cultures we had to be on hand to help the brides side with what to do and how to do it! As me and my sister were about to eat some breakfast, we had to help the bride. Her chunni hadn’t been pinned properly & just some last minute touch ups were required. We helped and by the time that had finished it was time to get the wedding started! As you can imagine my blood sugars were having a field day with not eating properly…. The wedding went ahead without a hitch. It was such a lovely ceremony! We took photos at the gurdwara. Made sure we ate some lunch, then it was time for the doli. But us girlies had to do a bit of a detour as the groom aka my brother needed his kirpan for his photoshoot. So we went via Chiswick Park and then went to her house. We waited at the pub at the end of her road, let’s just say we all were happy to just sit down and have a cold drink! The doli happened, and it was unconventional but eh it worked at that moment. Typical me and my diabetes as the doli is happening my blood sugar is dropping so there we are having banter at the door & me getting mugs of juice brought to me.. Once the doli is all done we head back to Surrey to end the day! They come home & completed all the rituals that were left to do. This is when things turned for me. I knew something wasn’t right having your 6th hypo of the day was defiantly my bodies way of telling me I had over done it. I just took myself to my room and everything just overcame me. I had a full blown panic attack, I couldn’t breath. My alarm kept going off to indicate my sugar had dropped and that it was still going lower and wasn’t stabilising. I thank god that I saw the signs and that my sisters were there to help. My eldest cousin altered my nephew to get my sister who came up with my cousin. One put the fan on to cool me down, one held a bin so I could throw up and another was talking off my jewellery whilst rubbing my back. Collectibility every single sister that was around me at that time kept me so solid so that nothing worse would happen. After what felt like hours but truly was only like 20 mins I started to feel calm. I had some coke to stabilise my sugar level which it slowly started to creep up. I was literally unable to speak, move or do anything. I stayed sitting down for a good 45 minutes with my sister in law by my side to make sure nothing else would happen. It was so scary and truly I have never experience anything like it. I am so grateful that I was around my family when something like had happened. The irony of having such an episode like this is that it happened on the day of my diabetic anniversary!! After all that to be honest the day was kinda done and it had been an eventful one at that too! 

Friday was a chilled day. After the debacle the evening before trying to keep it chilled was literally the aim of the day. We had counted all the alcohol and sent it to the venue in preparation for Saturday. No matter how hard we all tried to ensure that we would go to bed early it just didn’t happen. We ended up still getting to bed late and honestly I knew we were feeling it. We were feeling the tiredness and had one last push to finish a weeks long celebration! 

Saturday 19th, the final day and hurrah of the wedding! We woke up and what seemed as a relaxed start like any day turned in to rushing around and trying to get out of the door. How quickly things change within a wedding is so shocking… There Poruwa the Sri Lankan Ceremony and Reception happened at the Grove Hotel. We arrived there had some quick pictures with my brother and then waited for our guests to arrive. We had limited numbers at the ceremony so we didn’t have to wait for too many of our guests. Whilst waiting me and husband were like let’s go and sort out the hotel rooms that we had booked for the wedding. Upon going to reception we were told that no rooms had been paid for and we would have to get our guests to pay for them. Me and the brides mother went so crazy at the staff. They realised instantly they had made a mistake and told us they would fix it. We then rushed to get to the ceremony as it was due to start. We had arranged for a set seating for some of our elders as they were going to partake in a blessing for the ceremony. So my sister was by the chairs telling them where to sit and I was at the entrance of the hall. However I ended up being a coordinator at the ceremony and telling everyone where to sit as no one knew which side was who! So I just started directing all guests which lucky I did as many people were confused as they entered. We were able to get everyone seated quickly and the ceremony started. The ceremony was very quick and it was so lovely to witness another cultural and how they do there traditions. I could see our whole family were so immersed in the experience and really grateful that we got to witness it. 

The ceremony finished, and we finally got the rooms sorted. It seems like we were just told the wrong information and didn’t need to deal with that extra headache! But thankfully it was all done and sorted. We had more family pictures and finally went to get changed. I’ve never felt so stressed in getting changed as I did in that moment. It’s always just stress when your trying to get changed & there are like loads of people just doing so many different things. 

Once changed, me and my sister had to hunt down guests as there was a seating arrangement but it had all been changed due to us having so many people drop out and etc.. but we sorted it. Told everyone there new table numbers and everyone entered the hall. Once we sat down to have starters me and my sister decided  that we can’t keep getting stressed about stuff and we were just going to enjoy ourselves. As soon as that music started we were on the dance floor and we didn’t leave. Until the music switched off and we sat down for mains. My nephew started feeling unwell at this point so we got him changed in to his pyjamas and just got him to relax. It seems like the wedding caught up with all us. Me and my sister had to do a speech at the wedding. And we had to go first which was so daunting. We wanted our speech to really reflect what it was like have a brother and how it was growing up with him. We took it all the way back to our childhoods and included all our family in it as they all share such a bond with him. And being the baby of the family it was such a big deal it was his wedding! We had so many people come up to us from both sides saying they could feel the love and really feel the antics that we all got up too. It was so lovely to hear that as when you’re up there we did feel really anxious! The party kickstarted again and we were all back on the dance floor. The evening then wrapped up and we got back home at 1.00am! Even though we were so tired, we all got into our pyjamas & had pizza! It was the best ending to what had been a chaotic, exciting, funny & emotional wedding week!!! 

Looking back even as I am writing this I can still remember the fun that we had. All that laughs and the jokes! I can say that it was honestly the best and the best part of it all was the family we have and the family that we embraced! Thank you to everyone for coming and making itnso special without you lot the wedding wouldn’t have been as fun as it was! 

Wishing my baby brother and his wife our sister in law all the happiness in the world. Hope you both you had a great time and enjoyed it as much as we all did! 💜💕😊

Check out my TikTok & Instagram Page for some clips from the fun we had at the wedding: Wedding Highlights & Wedding Fun

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Drinks Review - Top Supermakets

I love sparkling water especially the flavoured ones. It all kinda stems from having yeh diabetes. When my blood sugar use to get high which use to be a lot of the time I would have a crave for something fizzy so I always use to just have Coke Zero or Diet Coke to help with that craving! 

But as time has gone on I just got fed up of consuming so many fizzy drinks and just didn’t want it anymore. In between the years I would also have a sparking water here or there and just decided instead of having fizzy drinks just have that. Becusee after all I craved the sparkling/ fizzy taste and not actually the coke flavouring! 

So as being a sparkling water addicted I have tried all supermarket brands spelling water and honestly they all do provide a different quality of taste! The best thing about the flavoured sparkling water is the price as they are all under a £1.00 so you get really good value for money! 

My favourite flower is apple & elderflower it’s just got the best taste in my opinion. So if you like sparkling flavoured water but just don’t know where the best one is don’t worry I’ve got you! 

Asda : 6/10 RRP is at 0.55p

It’s ok. It’s always hard to find the flavour that I want so have to comprise with that. It’s the first supermarket I ever got sparking flavoured water from when it used to be 35p a bottle and it was great then. However over the years it’s kinda lost the quality of what it used to have. It is still the cheapest place to buy it from but I feel like it's not the same anymore. 

Morrisons: 7/10 RRP is at 0.75p

This one really shocked me. It’s the second cheapest of the places to buy and honestly the quality of the water and the flavouring is really good. Again some of the flavours are hard to get so makes it difficult to choose the right one. 

Sainsburys 10/10 RRP is at 0.85p

This is my go to place to get my water one. Honestly so much so that they started making the apple and elderflower in to small bottles which is great when your out and about. The flavour is always there and is amazing. However recently though I’ve felt the flower has changed slightly as it is starting to become more pungent but I’m hoping that was just a fluke.. still one of my favs though. 

Tesco : 9/10 RRP is at 0.75p 

So they don’t have the apple and elderflower however they have another flavour which is my favourite here and that’s the white grape with blackberries. Honestly it’s so yummy & it makes it different from the apple flavour. I love this one but again it’s always hit/ miss if there will be any availability. 

Marks and Spencer  : 9/10 (No price on their website) 

There sparking water is good of course it is. It’s M&S however my favourite drink from there is the can of apple & elderflower that I do. The only thing is that it has sugar in it compared to others which are all sugar free but I think that’s because it’s kinda a different substitute to the others. But it’s my favourite and sometimes it just hits the spot especially when it’s warm day and it’s been ice cold in the fridge! 

Waitrose: 9/10 RRP is at 0.80p 

So I’ve only recently tried this one and that’s because I realised that I hadn’t up until now tried it from here. Being Waitrose this is the most expensive out of all them as it comes in at 85p a bottle compared to the others that around the 40/60p mark! But it’s really nice, it’s less pungent on the flavouring so it’s not overpowering and the fizz in the water is spot on. If I was a regular Waitrose shopper I would defiantly be getting it. 

** I have tried most of the flavours but going on the basis of the one flavour I drink the most** 

They are all great to be honest and the best thing is your getting a sugar free drink without breaking the bank or feeling guilty for consuming so many fizzy drinks! I think it’s more down preference & where you end doing local shop! But for me Marks & Spencer, Sainsburys & Tesco are top! 

  

 

 

  

A Timeline of my Weekend - Hen Party Fun with twist of Period Tragedy...

This weekend I went away for a hen weekend. And like all hen weekends it was planned in advance and it was something I had been looking forward to for a while. It was also the first time I was ever going away with my husband’s cousins. I’ve been married nearly 8 years and this was the first time that I was going away with his cousin sisters. In the past the girls have got married but none of the girls have had done a hen weekend like this so I was looking forward to it.

Honestly it was so great and I laughed so much. To be honest a hen weekend is such a great time to get together. You get dressed up and let your hair down. It was all that and more. I hadn’t had alcohol in over a year so I really wanted to enjoy myself with a couple of glasses of Prosecco & then we made cocktails so got to enjoy them and it was a really lovely experience. 

However, I guess my excitement of the weekend had to be ruined in some capacity. I got my period! And you’re all probably reading that and thinking what’s the big deal we all get them. Well for me it is a big deal & it affects me in so many ways. If you have read my earlier blog posts you would know my struggles with them. But if you haven’t let explain about what happens and how it made me feel in this situation.

I came off the pill for good end of last year as we are trying for a family. Now we have been down this road before but in the past it was different. In the past I would go back on the pill with the doctors advice as they wanted to understand why I bled so heavily when my period started. I have always had a heavy bleed but it’s nothing compared to what I get now. My bleed is so heavy now that I soak through the pad on to my underwear. I have to wear the highest strength pad doubled up & still I will bleed through. In the past it would come on like this & I would be back on the pill and I believed it was God’s plan. It wasn’t my time then to have a kid. I hadn’t checked off my tick list I accepted it. As a type 1 diabetic my blood sugar wasn’t were it needed to be and I was on really strong painkillers that would’ve affected my pregnancy anyways. So I accepted this. For the past 4 years or so this is what has been happening. It comes on heavy and I go back on the pill. 

Anyways fast forward to now 2025. As soon as I came off the pill in December 2024, I had a period and honestly it was minimal and fine. So I was expecting to start beginning of Jan it didn’t happen. So I just thought it’s irregular it won’t happen this month. I started on Friday before I left for my trip. It was like my previous period nothing was happening. And within my 1hour plus drive it’s like the gateway had open and I was gushing. I still pushed it to the back of my mind as I really wanted to enjoy myself. I kept getting involved in the fun around me but my mind was elsewhere. I kept checking the sofa when I stood up, I was going to the toilet calculating my next pad change. We went to sleep and I prayed for it to be better the next day. 

I woke up at 5am and was dreading going to the toilet so fell back asleep. I knew at 7am that I would have to get up. I rushed to the toilet and it was like scene from a blood bath. When I see that it always take me back to the first time it happened and I was such a state as there was blood everywhere. I started to check the toilet and all around me. I could see that the blood had got on to my pyjama bottoms but in that moment all I wanted to do was just go home. I sorted myself out and went back to bed and just cried. I was sharing a room with my two sister in laws & didn’t want to disturb them or for them to see me like this so just cried silently. Once everyone was up, I had decided to tell them both that I was probably going to back home today. I didn’t feel myself nor did I feel comfortable to be there. I still tried to put it all behind me, and got ready. 

Even once we were ready the fear of sitting was just getting to me too much! I thought I need to tell one of the sisters who organised it what’s happening. She was like you do what’s best for you. If you need to go at any point then just leave. I felt so supported. We all got back together as I group and I realised that I would need to move my car as I was blocked in if I wanted to leave. I asked another one of the sisters if she could move and as soon as she asked me what’s up. I just broke down crying and I just couldn’t take it anymore. The stress of it all,the emotions the distraught that just meant I wasn’t pregnant just all got to me. 

I knew there and then that I would probably need to go home soon. I didn’t want to cause a scene or make a drama because it wasn’t about me so tried to shield myself from anyone else who would see me crying! We went out and honestly just drinking and being around good company I tried not to think about it. I did keep sticking to my toilet time and even then I was like trying to keep not thinking about it. I ignored what was on my pad and was like it will be ok. 

We had to come back earlier to the house we were staying. Me and my niece grabbed some food for everyone even then I was trying not to think about it. However once we got back I thought I better go and change my pad. As soon as went to the bathroom, the pad had been soaked and so was my underwear. I felt like I had wet myself. I quickly changed my underwear and packed my stuff up. I knew in that moment I needed to come home. 

I ate with everyone and then slipped out. I told my two sister in laws & one of the sisters that I was going. I felt and still do feel rubbish that I left earlier and not only that this had consumed me all weekend. I made sure that I could be present for the bride to be no matter though how I felt and stayed until truly I knew I could leave without missing anything. 

So here goes with all the questions running through your head because trust me I get asked plenty. I have been investigated twice with the relevant team and nope they can’t find anything wrong. They can’t even find the PCOS they had diagnosed  me many moons ago. My scans are all clear so they don’t know why it happens. Regarding pregnancy there is no reason as to why I am not falling pregnant from a biological point of view. Apart from the diabetes they can’t see why it isn’t happening. They have said you need to give your body the time to go through this and see what happens. 

Why not just have IVF? Well firstly if they can’t find anything wrong they want me to try naturally. Secondly right now I wouldn’t be able to put myself or my body through that. Thirdly it’s no one’s bloody business what I do or if I should do it.. 

It hits me really hard when I go through all this. However though this time is different  this time it hit me to my core. Because this time all my pre period symptoms were those of that being pregnant. I truly believed I was pregnant and before I could test this happens and it broke something in me. I always believed that god has a plan and that your destiny is already written for you. But right now I can’t seem to believe in god or his plan. When this has happened in the past I always able to get over this feeling in essence as I knew I wasn’t where I said I always wanted to be in life before I had or even tried for kids. But for the first time I am exactly where I want to be. Everything I wanted has been ticked off my list and actually feel so ready so I believed it would happen. 

I know that there will be struggles and I have to find my own coping mechanism. But it doesn’t mean that it hurts any less when that period comes. I just wish people wouldn’t ask me. The stigma around being married and not having a kid is so strong that it breaks me a little every time I get asked. I was at a party and I got told several times how I should have a kid? And I have been married long enough (7 years) that I should have a kid by now. And I think if only you knew my struggles you would see how I would want that more than anything!! 

So here is a pic of me from the weekend - you can all see the smile and happiness. But truly inside & deep down there is fear, sadness, embarrassment, anxiety all mixed in to one! 

2025 - the year for more writing

I’ve realised that writing is more thing than talking in to the camera completely unscripted. Yes I am talking about the world of TikTok. I’m terrible at it, I always forget to post my day or some important video.. so I had a realisation that I should just stick to what I know and that is writing! 

Don’t worry I’m not setting my make up brushes down just yet. For all my few but very faithful followers those transitions videos will still be happening. 

So whilst driving today I have decided that I am going to (try) and write more blogs. I use to do it all the time and then I guess I just couldn’t be bothered, life got complicated perhaps. I really don’t know what the cause was but I want to try again. 

I don’t have a resolution for 2025 because guess what.. and you’ve probably guessed it correctly I won’t stick to it. So it’s more a promise to myself to focus on the things I enjoy and if along the way something comes out of then great if not then I can carry on doing what I love! 

I have some topics which I have been aching to talk about but I don’t know why filming myself and talking about it doesn’t feel right. I mean I did a couple of videos and one predominant one is where I talk about my health struggles but I never really stayed constant with that.. 

So today I can feel my creative juices coming alive & with that comes some great topics to discuss & just a general picture of where I am in my life! 

I hope you enjoy reading the blogs and for all of you that follow my socials thank you! It’s truly appreciated when someone comes up to me and says how great it is to watch a video that I’ve created. I will try to do more but let’s be honest it may take me awhile! 

So until the those videos don't start becoming regular why not have read of all the random NONSENSE that I have to write about it!